How to Accept Defeat

It is the final game of the playoffs and we are in the midst of the game where plays aren’t going our way and it seems the other team has found our weakness.

I get that gut wrenching feeling that we are going to lose our finals in our volleyball tournament.

How to Accept Defeat - OKC

I stay positive.
I play my absolute best.
I dig.
I dive.
I don’t give up.
I even got injured.

Despite how badly we are losing I give it my all for I hope that we can win from behind but the inevitable happened…

We lost.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou

I accepted the defeat immediately though it did bother me cause I just felt we were so close to winning.

How to accept defeat

1. Know that you played your best.

When you can honestly say you played your absolute best, just accept that the other team or player was better than you.  Sometimes your best isn’t good enough.

If you didn’t play your best, this gives reason as to why you may have not won.  So take responsibility for your loss due to your lack of passion.

2. Learn from your mistakes.

Analyze where you or your team made errors and improve on them.  Just like any professional sports team, they analyze the game and pick apart where they went wrong, so they can improve on their game and strategy.

I am not the best setter though I am the setter for my team. I worked on it, practiced, and I got better.  This resulted in better sets so that my hitters will have the potential to get controlled spikes.

3. Don’t think of the ‘what if’s

The reality is you lost and there is no ‘what if’s’ to think about for you are just reliving the mistakes in your head and the what if’s’ can be a never ending list.  Also the ‘what if’s’ may have not improved your results, instead you just try it on the the next game, if you have the opportunity to do so.

4. Don’t dwell on bad calls

It is easy to point the fingers at the referees for making bad calls or lack thereof.  The calls have been made and there is no point on dwelling on bad calls for what’s done is done and you can’t take it back.  Just like the last Pacquiao vs. Bradley fight, it was a clear win for Pacquiao but due to the poor/fixed judging, Bradley won.  In the end of the day if you know you are the clear winner, then believe it – a trophy or prize will not justify it.

“Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.” ― Ralph Ellison